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 When you came into the world, she held you in her arms. 
 You thanked her by wailing like a banshee. 
 When you were 1 year old, she fed you and bathed you. 
 You thanked her by crying all night long. 
 When you were 2 years old, she taught you to walk. 
 You thanked her by running away when she called. 
 When you were 3 years old, she made all your meals with love. 
 You thanked her by tossing your plate on the floor. 
 When you were 4 years old, she gave you some crayons. 
 You thanked her by coloring the dining room table. 
 When you were 5 years old, she dressed you for the holidays. 
 You thanked her by plopping into the nearest pile of mud. 
 When you were 6 years old, she walked you to school. 
 You thanked her by screaming, "I'M NOT GOING!" 
 When you were 7 years old, she bought you a baseball. 
 You thanked her by throwing it through the 
 next-door-neighbor's window. 
 When you were 8 years old, she handed you an ice cream. 
 You thanked her by dripping it all over your lap. 
 When you were 9 years old, she paid for piano lessons. 
 You thanked her by never even bothering to practice. 
 When you were 10 years old, she drove you all day, from 
 soccer to gymnastics to one birthday party after another. 
 You thanked her by jumping out of the car and never looking back. 
 When you were 11 years old, she took you and your friends to the movies. 
 You thanked her by asking to sit in a different row. 
 When you were 12 years old, she warned you not to watch certain TV shows. 
 You thanked her by waiting until she left the house. 

 Those teenage years 
 When you were 13, she suggested a haircut that was becoming. 
 You thanked her by telling her she had no taste. 
 When you were 14, she paid for a month away at summer camp. 
 You thanked her by forgetting to write a single letter. 
 When you were 15, she came home from work, looking for a hug. 
 You thanked her by having your bedroom door locked. 
 When you were 16, she taught you how to driver her car. 
 You thanked her by taking it every chance you could. 
 When you were 17, she was expecting an important call. 
 You thanked her by being on the phone all night. 
 When you were 18, she cried at your high school graduation. 
 You thanked her by staying out partying until dawn. 

 Growing old and gray 
 When you were 19, she paid for your college tuition, 
 drove you to campus, carried your bags. 
 You thanked her by saying good-bye outside the dorm so you wouldn't 
 be embarrassed in front of your friends. 
 When you were 20, she asked whether you were seeing anyone. 
 You thanked her by saying, "It's none of your business." 
 When you were 21, she suggested certain careers for your future. 
 You thanked her by saying, "I don't want to be like you." 
 When you were 22, she hugged you at your college graduation. 
 You thanked her by asking whether she could pay for a trip to Europe. 
 When you were 23, she gave you furniture for your first apartment. 
 You thanked her by telling your friends it was ugly. 
 When you were 24, she met your fiance and asked about your plans for the future. 
 You thanked her by glaring and growling, "Muuhh-ther, please!" 
 When you were 25, she helped to pay for your wedding, and she cried and told 
 you how deeply she loved you. 
 You thanked her by moving halfway across the country. 
 When you were 30, she called with some advice on the baby. 
 You thanked her by telling her, "Things are different now." 
 When you were 40, she called to remind you of an relative's birthday. 
 You thanked her by saying you were "really busy right now." 
 When you were 50, she fell ill and needed you to take care of her. 
 You thanked her by reading about the burden parents become to their children. 


 And then, one day, she quietly died. And everything you never did came 
 crashing down like thunder. 

 "Rock me baby, rock me all night long." 
 "The hand who rocks the cradle...may rock the world". 
 Let us take a moment of the time just to pay tribute/show appreciation to 
 the person called MOM though some may not say it openly to their mother. 
 There's no substitute for her. Cherished every single moment. 
 Though at times she may not be the best of friends, may not agree to our 
 thoughts, she is still your mother!!! 
 She will be there for you...to listen to your woes, your braggings, your 
 frustations, etc. 
 Ask yourself.....have you put aside enough time for her, to listen to her 
 "blues" of working in the kitchen, her tiredness??? 
 Be tactful, loving and still show her due respect though you may have a 
 different view from hers. 
 Once gone, only fond memories of the past and also regrets will be left. 

 **DON'T TAKE FOR GRANTED THE THINGS CLOSEST TO YOUR HEART. CLING TO THEM AS 
 U WOULD YOUR LIFE, FOR WITHOUT THEM, LIFE IS MEANINGLESS* 

‎” إِنَّا لِلّهِ وَإِنَّـا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعونَ ” ….. ليست مجرد تعزية

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
ما أروعها من جملة ، وما أطيبها من كلمة ، جامعة مانعة ، تجمع بين السهولة والقوة ؛ سهولة اللفظ وقوة المعنى ، وبين العبودية والعزة ، عبودية المخلوق للخالق ؛ وعزة المخلوق بخالقه .
جرت العادة أن هذه الكلمة إذا سُمعت فإنها تُوحي بمصيبة وهذا ما جاءت في القرآن لأجله؛قال الله سبحانه وتعالى : {الَّذِينَ إِذَا أَصَابَتْهُم مُّصِيبَةٌ قَالُواْ إِنَّا لِلّهِ وَإِنَّـا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعونَ }البقرة156
ولذلك ينطقها اللسان بنبرات حزينة وربما برأس مخفوض ووجه عبوس وقلب مكلوم.
نعم هي ترافق المصيبة وتأتي معها ؛ لكن لا لتزيدها أو تعمّق جراحها بل لتخففها وتقوي الصبر عليها ؛ وهل التعزية إلا التقوية !!؟
يقولها أهل المصائب مؤمنون بها مستسلمون لحكمها {فَانقَلَبُواْ بِنِعْمَةٍ مِّنَ اللّهِ وَفَضْلٍ لَّمْ يَمْسَسْهُمْ سُوءٌ وَاتَّبَعُواْ رِضْوَانَ اللّهِ وَاللّهُ ذُو فَضْلٍ عَظِيمٍ }آل عمران174
إِنَّا لِلّهِ وَإِنَّـا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعونَ تدعو إلى التفاؤل وتعني التسلية عن المصاب وتهدف إلى رفع الروح المعنوية واستقرار الحالة النفسية وهي حصن للمسلم من الوقوع في عدم الرضا بالقضاء ومنجاة له من الاعتراض على القدر .
إنها تخاطب المصاب ألا تحزن فأنت ملكٌ لله سبحانه ، وألا تتشاءم فأنت قادمٌ على الله سبحان وتعالى ومن فقدت فهو ملك لله وقادم إليه وألا تيأس وألا تستلم وألا تقعد عن العمل .

” إِنَّا لِلّهِ وَإِنَّـا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعونَ ” إنها اعتراف وإقرار من المصاب بأنّه وما أُصيب فيه وما فقده من مال أو أهل أو نحوه وكل شيء حوله كل ذلك لله سبحانه وتعالى .
وما دام الأمر كذلك وما دام أننا وما نملك وما نحب وما نجمع : ملك لله ، فليفعل الله بنا ما يشاء وليأخذ منا ما يشاء ، ولترضى النفس ولتطمئن الروح ” فإنّا إليه راجعون ” .
إذن : نحن ملكٌ لله وراجعون إليه فلماذا تقتلنا الأحزان وتهلكنا !؟
لماذا يقتلنا الحزن على حبيب سبقنا إلى الله ؟!!
ولماذا يفتك بنا الحزن ونحن وما نملك : ملكٌ الله ؟!!
إذا تيقّنا أنّ من فقدناه منّا فقد سبقنا إلى الله ، وأننا وإن تأخرنا سنلحق به : فلنسعد ولنستعد.

” إِنَّا لِلّهِ وَإِنَّـا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعونَ ” فهو كما قال إبراهيم عليه السلام : {الَّذِي خَلَقَنِي فَهُوَ يَهْدِينِ{78} وَالَّذِي هُوَ يُطْعِمُنِي وَيَسْقِينِ{79} وَإِذَا مَرِضْتُ فَهُوَ يَشْفِينِ{80} وَالَّذِي يُمِيتُنِي ثُمَّ يُحْيِينِ{81} الشعراء

” إِنَّا لِلّهِ وَإِنَّـا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعونَ ” ما أعظمها من تعزية ، ولأنّ التعزية تعني التقوية ، فكانت هذه الجملة العظيمة تقوية للمصاب لا تضاهيها أي تقوية إذا كانت عقيدة وبيقين وتسليم ومن قلب سليم
تقوّى بها السحرة الذين آمنوا برب موسى وهارون على فرعون لمّا هددهم بتقطيع أيديهم وأرجلهم وصلبهم تعزوا:{قَالُواْ إِنَّا إِلَى رَبِّنَا مُنقَلِبُونَ }الأعراف125و{قَالُوا لَا ضَيْرَ إِنَّا إِلَى رَبِّنَا مُنقَلِبُونَ }الشعراء50 أي : لا ضرر علينا فيما يلحقنا من عقاب الدنيا, إنا راجعون إلى ربنا فيعطينا النعيم المقيم ( التفسير الميسر )

ولا نختلف أن الحزن أمر طبيعي وفطري في البشر وإن العين لتدمع وإن القلب ليحزن[1] على مفقود لكن لا بد للمصاب من تسلية وتقوية فكانت هذه الهبة الربانية ” إِنَّا لِلّهِ وَإِنَّـا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعونَ ” { وَمَنْ أَصْدَقُ مِنَ اللّهِ حَدِيثاً }النساء87.

” إِنَّا لِلّهِ وَإِنَّـا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعونَ ” { لِّكَيْلاَ تَحْزَنُواْ عَلَى مَا فَاتَكُمْ وَلاَ مَا أَصَابَكُمْ }آل عمران153
لذلك كانت جائزة أهلها المؤمنون بها الذين امتثلوا القول بها لمّا أصابتهم المصيبة : {أُولَـئِكَ عَلَيْهِمْ صَلَوَاتٌ مِّن رَّبِّهِمْ وَرَحْمَةٌ وَأُولَـئِكَ هُمُ الْمُهْتَدُونَ }البقرة157
” إِنَّا لِلّهِ وَإِنَّـا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعونَ ” منهج تربوي رباني في التعامل مع المصائب والموقف منها يحمينا بإذن الله من شر الأمراض النفسية والحالات العصبية الناتجة عن التأثر بالمصائب ويجعل بيننا وبينها ما بين المشرق والمغرب ويكفينا عناء البحث عن الأدوية والعقاقير المهدِّأة والتنقل بين العيادات للبحث عن علاجات .

” إِنَّا لِلّهِ وَإِنَّـا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعونَ ” علاج وجائزة .
” ليست مجرد تعزية “

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